I was given a book recently titled "Shloimie" it gave me such chizuk
on understanding what true "CHESED'' is. I urge you to go out and buy this sefer, or click on book above to order from
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whole page is Liluy Nishamas R'Shlomo Yehuda ben R'Avraham Yaakov .
When you read this book you'll love him and wish you had known him. You'll Say that
knowing him would have made you a better person.
You'll find yourself saying, "What would
Shoimie have done?" And you'll do it!
On this page we will post amazing heartfelt chesed stories. If you have a chesed story to share please email it in
to us at firstname.lastname@example.org (click here) and we will post it. I pray to Hashem that this page will help yidden across the globe, increase in our chesed,
and bring us closer together, so Hashem will be proud of us and send us Mashiach bmehera byameinu. AMEN!!!!
Below are two great things to read about Chesed. We will post each Chesed story
as they come in on the bottom of this page with a number.
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It All Begins With chesed
By Rabbi Y. Adlerstein
Chesed is chief amongst good midos.
It is also the central principle, around which all other principles of Creation are predicated. All elements of chesed and
love contribute to the upbuilding of the world; all forms of cruelty give rise to destructiveness.
Things could have been different, claimed the brother of
the Maharal . “Olam chesed yibaneh”– the world will be built upon chesed.
There is no a priori reason why this had to be. HKBH could have chosen one of His other midos, and spun a world
revolving around it. He chose chesed because it is closest to His Will. Similarly, when we are instructed
to imitate His midos (as fulfillment of the imperative “You shall walk in His ways”), Chazal
limit this obligation to themidos of chesed, but none other. It is through chesed alone
that we attach ourselves to Him.
can perform acts of chesed with our property and our selves. Greater still is when we rise to the level
of becoming the very embodiment of chesed, when we become chesed personalities. We then share
in the Torah’s description of Avraham, the quintessential person of chesed. About him the Torah writes,
“And you will be aberachah.”This means, say Chazal, that anyone who was touched by Avraham, or who dealt
with him, or even saw him was blessed, because Avraham himself had become a berachah. Indeed, the true person
of essential chesed feels for the other, and gives him his entire heart. When his friend is racked by pain,
and his spirit collapses within him, the chesed personality fulfils with him the spirit of “I am
with him in his trouble.” At times of his friend’s joy, he stands with him as a partner. The chesed-person
influences all who enter his orbit. He gives everyone his attention, because he loves every Jew as himself. An aura of love
and fraternity accompanies him; it seems as if his entire being is given over to assist the other. The chesed-
person’s being is shaped by the special nature ofchesed, which is
hispashtus.Thus, chesed and love emanate and
extend from him, reaching both near and far. By contrast, the person who lacks chesed is, by nature, contracted
and limited. Whatever capacity he has to love, he contains narrowly within him, and applies it only to himself.
Besides all of this, an added benefit attaches
to chesed. When a Jew conducts himself in the spirit of chesed, Heaven deals with him as well
with the midah of chesed. The Besht, as well as others, emphasized that HKBH relates to people
according to midos with which they live their lives. If they practice cruelty, the midah of
Hashem’s judgment is aroused against them, regardless of the validity of their justification. Maharal shows at length
that when a person attaches himself to the Goodness of Hashem by directing some of it to others, Hashem directs some of that
very good to the person himself.
HaAvodah writes that a person should view an opportunity to do chesed to another as if he found great treasure.
Exercising such an opportunity is a key to successful level, as was pointed out by the Rebbe of Kobrin. He taught that a day
in which a Jew does not perform some favor or kindness for another is a day not really lived.
One who diligently studies Torah but does not occupy himself
with acts of chesed “is as if he did not have a G-d.” What he lacks, explains Rashi, is Hashem
standing over him protectively. Without that protection, he lives his life as if he did not have a personal relationship with
G-d. Were he to practice chesed as well, his affairs would be conducted from Heaven through protocols of chesed.
Thus, his umbrella of protection would be more complete, working to assure his safety even when he did not otherwise deserve
to be spared.
the long process of bringing a flawed world back to the rarified state of Gan Eden before Adam’s sin – began with
Avraham. He started the process of reestablishing spiritual order to a world of chaos, of sohu va’vahu.
His work was followed by the six Shepherds who distilled other midos.
His contribution, of course, was the perfection of the midah ofchesed. chesed is
associated with no figure in Chumash as strongly as with Avraham. Why, then, does chesed not appear on
the Mishnah’s short list of characteristics of Avraham’s disciples? Instead, the Mishnah speaks of a generous
eye, a humble spirit, and a meek soul.
We might answer that when the Mishnah speaks of disciples of Avraham it refers to Avrahams-in-training, those who
aspire to become like him. The Mishnah doesn’t describe Avraham so much as how a person should position himself to be
able to imitate his great chesed. The three traits mentioned by the Mishnah are the important precursors to chesed activity.
Similarly, when the Mishnah describes the polar opposite traits and links them to Bilam, it assigns the blame for stunted chesed development
to those traits. (Their common denominator is a heightened sense of self. Nothing stands in the way of true chesed as
anochiyus, attaching great importance to ones own self. And nothing allows the natural chesed within us
to flower and flourish as much as diminishing that sense of self.)
This analysis is appealing, but doesn’t stand up to scrutiny. The facts indicate otherwise.
It may seem reasonable that we need a generous eye, a humble spirit, and a meek soul to do chesed, but arguably
this is not so. We note much chesed performed by people who are far from these traits.
The Mishnah, of course, is correct – and so is our
interpretation. What we see does not amount to a counterexample to the Mishnah’s thinking. The Mishnah speaks specifically
of those who wish to become chesed personalities, whose chesed flows from their essential
selves. People can perform chesed for reasons both more and less laudable. People who have not yet become
full chesedpersonalities can be moved by circumstances to respond withchesed. That does not make them
master of chesed, and certainly not chesed personalities. They are not walking in along the
path of our forefather Avraham.
a word, ordinary people can do chesed, but only special ones arechesed at their cores. (To be
by Rivkie Greenland*
following was written by Rivkie Greenland as an introduction to a Shiur that was delivered L'Iluy N ishmas Reuven ben
Menachem Mordechai on the day of his funeral. The topic of the Shiur was Chesed. It was delivered by her at the Yeshiva University
Kollel Torah MiTzion Girls Learning Program.
I remember once crossing the street in downtown Chicago many years back. I was running late to work and
I tripped and dropped all my papers all over the ground in the middle of the street. A man came to my side, bent down, helped
me collect my papers and said to me “There. That’s my good deed for the day.”
I clearly remember stopping in my tracks and thinking... “Good deed for
the day?”…. FOR THE DAY? What did that mean “for the day?”
The reason I had that reaction is because in yiddishkeit, chesed has no limits.
In fact, as we say in davening every morning it is a mitzvah rewarded in this world and in the next. The ramifications for
every act of chesed that we do properly are therefore massive.
In Tehillim is says “ Olam Chesed Yibaneh” The world is built with chesed. We often
hear chesed translated as “loving kindness” but it is so much more than this. It’s so much deeper. It’s
what we do for people without payback or cause. It’s being proactive towards another person for no other reason than
there is a need to fill. It means being good-hearted and having a good attitude, treating people with respect, compassion
and sensitivity. It means identifying a need, pain or trouble in another person and doing all that you can. And influencing
others to do the same. It means pursuing opportunities to do all the chesed that our circumstances and resources including
our talents and our kochos allow. Really giving till it hurts. And it means to love chesed, and to do it with love.
And what is the ultimate act of chesed? We know
it as a chesed shel emes. That is the term used to describe the task of preparing a body for burial (taharos). There is no
greater chesed than this because there is absolutely no payback. And in most cases, no one will ever know who did this chesed
for whom. It’s kept very quiet.
There’s a story of Rabbi Yochanan Ben Zakai who was walking with his Talmid Rabbi Yehoshua past where the Bais
Hamikdash had stood. It had just been destroyed by the Romans and they had witnessed the destruction. Rabbi Yehoshua started
crying and Rabbi Yochanan said to him, "Yehoshua, my son, why are you crying?"
He answered, "Because the house that Hashem gave us to be atone for our
aveiros, no longer exists."
"You don't have to cry,” says Rabbi Yochanan. It says in Hoshea, that Hashem said, 'I want chesed, not korbanos.'
We see from this that every time that someone does a chesed, Hashem sees it as though they are actually giving a koban in
the Beis Hamkidash. The chesed itself is just as effective as the korbanos are for atonement.
When I was younger, and someone would say the word chesed, the first image that
popped into my head was the person who helped an old lady cross the street. I don’t know why. Maybe it’s because
I saw that picture in children’s book once. Truthfully, I actually can’t remember the last time I helped an old
lady cross the street. This is not to say it’s not a chesed. It is. But as I grew up, matured, and started paying attention,
I began to see chesed performed as an adult. And that only scratched the surface of what chesed really means.
I watched my mother put a coke by our front door
every day for the mail carrier—summer and winter! I watched her roll down her window many times to offer a ride to an
older person or just someone walking down the street. I saw her take elderly people shopping to Jewel (a major grocery store),
drive them home, and help them take their groceries into their homes. I saw her spend hours on the phone trying to set up
taharos. I saw my parents open their home to so many people who just needed a meal for shabbos.
But, I really got a dose of learning in these past few years, watching all of
the hundreds of people in both here in Chicago and in St Louis who exemplify this middah especially with regards to helping
my sister Tovi and her family.
it was a hour after school; overnight help; babysitting so she could run errands or go out for the evening; preparing meals;
monetary assistance that helped pay for the many extra things Reuven needed.
The shadows (young people hired to stay with Reuven and attend to his needs away
from home) who did their jobs helping Reuven with respect and love; extra curricular fun programs so the family could relax
and enjoy; the Davening and the tehillim; the challah baking... There was never an end to the offers. Nor did people take
no for an answer. People just came… and did. They came with love - quietly and without fanfare.
My sister wanted to relay the message that every
time people came for an hour or two to help, it was as if they gave her an entire day. She wanted everyone to know that those
who gave will never understand how much they helped her and that she truly feels like the chesed she received from them helped
her accomplish all that she needed to accomplish in taking care of Reuven, z”l.
Finally, we are so very blessed to have been able to see very clearly the chesed
of Hashem running thru the veins of the entire course of Reuven’s illness.
The chesed which placed my sister’s family in communities who either were
actual family or acted just as if they were, so that she could accomplish the what she needed to.
The chesed of Hashem who put Reuven in a hospital
that gave him doctors who were willing to go to the ends of the earth, literally, to learn a procedure which saved Reuven’s
The chesed of Hashem that
gave my brother in law, the opportunity to find a job in his hometown knowing that all the love and support they could ever
need would be right there.
chesed of Hashem that blessed their family with twin boys right in the middle of Reueven’s bone marrow transplant.
The chesed that although Reuven was in the hospital
right before their brisin, that he and my brother in law came home in time to be there and participate in their bris of their
of finding them a resource- a special person who has been conducting cancer related nutrition research for the past 17 years
and gave them an open door to help Reuven live the best quality of life in these past couple of years.
The list goes on and on. And I’m sure my
sister would add a thousand things. Of course, the ultimate chesed, of Hashem, being that in the exact moment he wanted to
take Reuven from this world, he did so in the most peaceful calm way, not causing Reuven or his family to suffer even one
ounce. The sudden shock of Reuven’s sudden death was also the ultimate chesed of Hashem.
We should continue to always be able to look carefully at a situation and assess
how we can be helpful where there is a need. Hashem should give us the strength to fill it, push ourselves to do more, and
to influence our friends as well.
In this zechus, may all the cholim have a refuah shleima, and may we be zoche to have Mashiach so very soon.
chesed, is Liluy Nishmas
''Reuven ben Menachem Mordechai'' z'l,
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Recently, I received a book entitled “Shlomie”,
(R'Shlomo Yehuda ben R'Avraham Yaakov z’l), who was a person who exemplified the true meaning
of chesed. Chasdei Hashem, the thought came to me that we need to improve on our chesed, and take chesed to a new level. We
created a page on the divrei chizuk site (divreichizuk.com) called “Doing Chesed’’.
Through taking all our chasadim to a new level, may
we all be zoche to see the building of the Bais HaMikdash bmehira byameinu. Amen!
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Aaron Shalom Tepfer,z'l
Boat Tragedy Victim
Boat Tragedy Victim
FAR ROCKAWAY, N.Y. -
Coming home from Camp Agudah last week, Aaron Tepfer
was looking forward to starting learning from his brand new set ofMishnah Berurah he received as a camp gift, in the sixth grade of yeshivah
he was to start on Monday.
At the levayah Sunday morning of Aaron Sholom Tepfer at Yeshivah Darchei Torah.
Instead, a horrific boating accident Friday afternoon left close to 2,000
grown people and young children sobbing, as Yeshivah Darchei Torah bade farewell to their beloved classmate and friend.
Aaron, who was to turn 11 after Sukkos, was enjoying a boat ride in Reynolds
Channel just off the Five Towns community of Cedarhurst where he lived. He fell into the water, and when he tried climbing
back into the boat, his left leg got stuck in the propeller.
was niftar at
that night, throwing his parents and wide circle of family friends into mourning.
At the levayah Sunday morning at Yeshivah Darchei Torah, his father said that he personified his name: he
had the middah of
Aharon Hakohen who was anohev shalom and a rodef
Moshe Benoliel, Darchei Torah’s director of alumni affairs, told Hamodia on Sunday
that “Aaron was a serious talmid who took his learning seriously. He absorbed at home the values of Torah being the priority.”
Rabbi Benoliel said that Aaron’s zest for life combined with his
unusual sensitivity made him a frequent mediator during arguments between children.
Born to Tuli and Rachel Tepfer in 2002, Aaron’s father, a businessman, is a Daf Yomi maggid shiur at his shul and his mother is a secular studies teacher at Darchei Torah. Aaron is the youngest of six brothers
to attend Darchei Torah.
At the levayah, the sounds of loud weeping was heard throughout the overflowing crowd.
“The sight of a father, his hand wrapped around his son, was not unusual,” Rabbi Benoliel
Maspidim recalled anecdotes of Aaron’s infectious sense of humor, and the fact that it occurred two weeks before
“This was our shofar,”
declared Harav Yaakov Bender, Rosh Yeshivah of Darchei Torah.
Other maspidim included
Tuli Tepfer, Aaron’s father; several of Aaron’s brothers; Harav Dovid Spiegel, the Ostrov-Kalushiner Rebbe of
Cedarhurst; Harav Yaakov Feitman, the family’s Rav; Harav Shlomo Avidgdor Altusky,Rosh Yeshivah of Darchei Torah; two of Aaron’s rebbeim and a rebbi from camp. Kevurah was at Mount Moriah cemetery at Fairview, N.J., near his grandfather